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Do you have a “different” child? Or just a child not quite like you? Or a child that you don’t really understand?
I’ve recently read “Different: The Story of an Outside-the-Box Kid and the Mom Who Loved Him” by Sally & Nathan Clarkson.
LOVED IT! We don’t have the same battles she & Nathan faced (ADHD, OCD, anxiety), but I found their story to be very encouraging – particularly as it relates to parenting the child we actually have, not the child we think we have or the child we thought we’d have.
We’re at the stage of parenting where personalities are starting to develop.  Where correction seems constant.  Where it’s a more than just “keeping the baby nourished and well slept”.
Some quotes I really enjoyed:
“If Nathan had grown up in a home where he was constantly put down and corrected, I think the oxygen of God’s love would have been strangled from his heart, which needed a wide berth of unconditional acceptance.”
“As a family, we told our other children, our message was clear: “If it is God’s will for Daddy and me to have Nathan as our child (for you with your issues), it is God’s will for you to have Nathan as your brother.  All of you are what make up the design of our family.”
“Because Nathan did need to be trained, some correction was unavoidable.  But when I put myself in Nathan’s shoes, I realized that my constant correction could easily be a source of frustration, insecurity, and anger in my already-fragile child.  That constant feeling of just not measuring up can build a lifelong legacy of insecurity and even despair.  Feeling like a disappointment on a regular basis can actually shape the brain patterns of a growing child.  Failure and helplessness can become self-fulfilling prophecies.”

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I came across this poem today and it touched me.  I’m familiar with the first few lines, but I’m not sure I’ve ever heard (or read) the whole thing.  It could be a good way of approaching life.

I’ve bolded what is particular impactful to me right now.


If….by Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
  But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream — and not make dreams your master;
If you can think — and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
  And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings — nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
  With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And which is more: you’ll be a Man, my son!

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With a new baby coming, I started to think about Finn & Stephen sharing a bedroom.  At first, I was just going to set up Stephen’s bed in Finn’s room and move him in there when the time was right.  But I realized that the best room for 2 kids was actually Stephen’s room.  Simply because of where the closet was in the room, it gave more walls for more beds & dresser.  So that meant:

  • Making the nursery into a “big boy” room.
  • Moving Finn into that “big boy” room now.
  • Making the current “big boy” room into a “nursery”.
  • Moving Stephen into that “nursery”.
  • Move Stephen into the “big boy” room when Baby #3 comes.
  • Baby #3 sleeps in the “nursery.”

Since I was never really thrilled about the color of the nursery, I wanted to repaint.  I didn’t have to – it was a perfectly fine color; just not one that I wanted anymore.  And it’s easier to repaint it when you’re moving furniture around anyway AND before 2 boys sleep there instead of 1.  So I repainted it white.  Stark white.  Never had a white room before.

BUT…I also did a big stripe near the bottom (but not at the bottom) of the wall.  AND I painted the trim!  I didn’t do the door trim yet — not brave enough for that, but I did the trim next to the floor!  I LOVE the way it looks, so that’s further confirmation that it’s the path that I want to go.

I don’t have any BEFORE pictures, but here’s the AFTER pictures.  (BTW…one of my goals for 2015 is to photograph my house – as it is, in all it’s imperfections.  It’ll be fun for memory lane sakes.)

It isn’t done, of course.

  • I ordered curtains in navy for the room.  Didn’t like them.  Will keep looking.
  • We’ll set up a Toddler bed in there for Stephen in a couple of months.  It’ll go across from Finn’s next to the window.
  • The boys have coordinating bedspreads (which they didn’t get for Christmas).  Eventually, they’ll get those.  Finn already has a comforter, but with potty training, it’s easier to use blankets because when accidents happen, I can wash everything in 1 load.
  • I want to add more 8×11 pictures to the wall, which I’ll do over time.  When Baby #3 is born, we’ll take family pictures again, so that might provide a nice opportunity for more photos.


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Books Read in 2014

In 2014, I kept a pinterest board dedicated to the books I read in 2014.  Looks like I read 115 books last year.  That’s about 1 every 3 days or so, so that seems about right.  I love to read and it’s what I spend any downtime doing.  (And with 2 kids who pretty much go to bed at 7:00 p.m., I have downtime!).

In the interest of keeping Pinterest practical, I’m going to delete the board eventually since I don’t really need to see all those pins.  Some of those were great, fabulous, want to read again books.  Some of them weren’t.  But I can see where having a list of books read would be handy, so I’ll consolidate those 115 books into 1 graphic.  This one!


I will eventually (I think) create a “Really Good Books” board for my absolute favorites, but for now, this seems good way to remember if I need to.

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I ran across a quote a while ago, but I don’t remember the source. It is “People don’t know how wonderful they are. Someone needs to tell them.” Maybe, for your friend, that someone is you. After all, relationships need encouragement to keep growing. Marriages don’t thrive when we ignore our spouses. Children don’t feel closer to us when we don’t spend time with them. Friendships are the same thing. Even with limited time that we moms can have, we can encourage our friendships. All it takes is just a little time and forethought.

Here are some of my ideas that don’t take too much time to pull off.

  • Send an email or a text message.  It just needs to be a few sentences, but it will brighten her day. Give her one to two things that you really appreciate.  Some things you’ve noticed about her specifically.  Extra credit if you hand write it on a note card, but that’s not necessary.
  • Bring her a treat. Driving through Starbucks? Pick her up a latte. Stopping by Dairy Queen? Order an extra milk shake just for her! Find out where she is and drop the treat off. You don’t even need to enjoy it with her; just bless her!
  • Decorate her yard. Get some plastic Easter eggs, fill them with candy and decorate her door step. Buy 100 American flags and make a big sign in her yard. Sneak into her yard at night and have some fun. Her kids will probably get a kick out of it too!
  • Drop off dinner. Making a casserole for dinner? Make two, but bring one to her. Just give her advance notice that you’re providing the meal or make it something that she can serve the next day. Meals don’t have to be just for new moms or when there is a death in the family.
  • Leave a voice mail. Does she have a work phone number? Call it late at night when she won’t be in the office. Leave a short message telling her that you value her friendship. That’ll be a nice surprise when she gets into the office!
  • Listen carefully. Many times, friends drop hints about the things that they need. Has she been looking for a good pork tenderloin recipe? If you find one, pass it on. If she mentions that her brother is looking for a job and you come across a possibility, send it her way. If you see a rug that would look great in her living room, tell her about it.
  • Take something off her plate.  Does she have errands to run?  Can you pick up her dry cleaning or the 5 gallons of paint she’s been meaning to get for the basement?  You can’t help her file her status reports for work, but you can bring her a snack while she’s working late.
  • Remember her birthday.  Let’s be honest. Sometimes moms can get overlooked on their birthdays.  So, before Facebook tells you it’s her birthday, write it in your day planner and plan ahead.  Order her one of those big chocolate chip cookies.  Make her a birthday cake.  It can even be from a box.  Help her kids make her a card.  Just make her feel special in some small way!

How do you encourage friendship?

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The perfect day

I think this would be the most perfect day:

10:00 AM – To wake up late like a 20-year-old college student who has no demands on your time and was able to sleep as late as you want.

11:00 AM – To be a 6-year-old who is about to go to Kindergarten for the first time and is just so excited!

12:00 Noon – Eating lunch with your other retired friends, catching up on each other’s children, grandchildren, travels and lives.

1:00 PM – As a mom who has a rare moment without your kids, getting your hair done. Just relishing the ability to stay still for a moment.

2:00 PM – As a toddler that just manuveured a chair to the front of the fridge and got out all the grapes. “I do myself!”

3:00 PM – As a couple who has been married 49.5 years, planning a 50th wedding anniversary trip, realizing a life-long dream. Italy? New York? Carribbean?

4:00 PM – As a parent, watching your oldest graduate from college. A goal achieved. A dream realized!

5:00 PM – As a 24-year-old woman, waiting nervously at home waiting for your date to pick you up. This is your 4th date with him and you’re still really excited about the relationship. There’s a good feeling that this relationship might go somewhere!

6:00 PM – As a dad, getting home from work, to be greeted by your family. Daddy’s home!

7:00 PM – As a 40-something single woman, sorting through mail, seeing the last support check come in for your upcoming missions trip to Zimbabwe.

8:00 PM – As a 6-month-old, slowly falling asleep after an evening feed in your mother’s arms.

I think it’s John Piper that says: “No one season has all the joys.” So true.

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There are soooo many cute gifts for teachers on pinterest!  Well, my kids don’t have any teachers, but I like the ideas.  And I like encouraging my co-workers.  So I put my couponing skills to work.  Added in my not-very-good-but-good-enough design skills and came up with gifts for my co-workers.

They were just a bottle of either orange Gatorade, Diet Sunkist or regular Sunkist with a note attached.  It said something clever like

“Orange You Glad:

->Work for such a cool team?

->Work on such a cool product?

->Work with such cool people?

Orange you glad for all that?

We sure are glad you’re here!

Yeah, it was dumb.  It was cheesy.  Yes, they’re mostly grown men.  Yes, it cost me less than $.50 bottle.  But I think they liked it!orange

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