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Want more friends?

Go to www.dairyqueen.com and sign up for their Blizzard Fan Club.  About once a month (maybe every other month) and on your birthday, they send you a “Buy One Blizzard, Get a Blizzard Free” email.

Then, you just find a friend to split it with you.

Or ask that cute guy you have your eye on if he wants to go to DQ with you.  You know, cause you have a free certificate and you might as well use it.

Or make a run there over your lunch hour and bring your boss one back.  Then casually remind him that it’s performance review time.

Or bring one to your mom.  Cause moms like to be remembered.

Or give one to your neighbor.  Cause snow season is coming up and he might own a snowblower.

Or bring one home to your spouse.  Cause you love them.

Or just go there and order one, asking if you can pay for the guy/gal behind you just to surprise them.

It’s a good way to get more friends.


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2 years ago

2 years ago, Mr. Jeffrey Michael M asked Miss Jayme Lynn H out on a date.  I couldn’t believe it.  I was ecstatic!

Today, my name isn’t Jayme H anymore.  It’s Jayme M.  I can hardly believe it.  I am still ecstatic!

Here’s the story of our first date:

In one of the conversations that Jeff and I casually had before we were dating, I shared a frustrated that women have sometimes with men and dating.  Sometimes, men ask women out on a date, but don’t always make it clear that it’s a date.  They probably do this for a variety of reasons – they don’t know to be clear or they think they’re being clear or it seems less risky to just ask to “hang out sometime”.  But, women love it when men are clear in asking them out.  When men say: “Will you go on a date with me?”, women love it.  Even if they answer no, they always appreciate the clarity.

On November 22, 2008, Jeff called me and told me that a group of friends were getting together to play board games.  Jeff hadn’t ever called me for that reason, but it wasn’t totally weird because we’ve definitely played games in a group before.  I went over to our friend’s house.  At one point, someone asked what everyone was doing that evening.  I said I had no plans.  Towards the end of the afternoon, the group broke up and people started going their separate ways.  In order to kind of hang back, I went to use the restroom.  (I didn’t really need to use the restroom – I just wanted to create an opportunity!)  When I came back downstairs, Jeff was still there (as I was hoping he would be!)

We started talking and I had the feeling that he was going to ask me on a date.  He started to – “Since you don’t have any plans tonight…” when we were interrupted by a friend!  The friend had just seen a family of deer (quite common down by the river) and wanted to tell us about it.  We listened to his story – I think I was outwardly polite, but inwardly I was telling him – “Just go away”!  Eventually, that friend left (it really wasn’t any longer than a few minutes, but it seemed like an eternity to me).  Jeff then was able to finish his sentence.  “Since you don’t have any plans tonight, would you like to go to dinner with me on a date?”  “Yes, I would love to.”  Smiles from both of us!  That was about 4:30 in the afternoon.  Jeff and I made plans for him to pick me up at 5:30 – in just an hour!

I drove home (I’m pretty sure I broke a speed limit or two on the way home.)  Then the internal debate started.  “Should I change my clothes?  I’m wearing jeans and a sweater.  He had just seen me an hour ago.  If I changed, he’d know…and what would that say about me?  If I don’t change, what does that say about how I feel about the date?”  On my way home, I called my roommate, Melissa — I told her my good news.   I also called 2 friends of ours (Angie and Chad) who were driving to an event they had.  Apparently, Chad already knew that Jeff had asked me out – Jeff just got done telling him!  Angie thought he had asked me out earlier in the day and I was just being secretive earlier when I said I had no plans for that evening.  I wasn’t being secretive, but was being hopeful!

I got home and decided against changing my outfit.  Maybe I should have – I don’t know enough about these things.  Since I didn’t really have much to do at home, I just sat in the kitchen watching TV waiting for him to come.  I was so nervous.  I’m pretty sure that if I would’ve had a week of waiting, I would’ve canceled on him.  Not because I would’ve wanted to, but because I wouldn’t have been able to take that level of nervousness!  I’m sure my system would’ve crashed.

The man is always on time and sure enough, at 5:30 p.m. on the dot, Jeff rang the door bell.  Even though I knew it was coming, I jumped a little bit – the loudness of the bell startled me.  I went to the door, purse in hand and opened it.  He smiled when I opened the door.  I smiled when I saw him.  “Hi.”  “Hi.”

He walked me to his car door and opened the door for me.  Once in the car, we started to talk about plans.  He had a restaurant in mind (Rick’s Boatyard) and a coffeehouse (13th Street Coffee).  A date perfectly planned all with an hour’s notice!  I remember where we sat in the restaurant (we on accident got the same table when we back a few months later for Valentine’s Day!) and what each of us were wearing.  I was in a pink and white sweater my sister had handed down to me.  He was in his blue and white plaid long sleeve shirt.

Afterwards, we took a walk to the Pedestrian Bridge that’s right next door to Rick’s Boatyard.  By then the sun had gone down, turning the night pretty cold!  I was too cool to have brought my coat with me on the date, so I wrapped up in a blanket that was in his car trunk as we walked up to the bridge.  After that, we went to 13th Street Coffee.  Might be an odd choice for 2 non-coffee drinkers, but we each had a nice hot cup of apple cider – a favorite of both of ours.  We talked more, before calling it an evening.  I don’t remember anything specific that we talked about that night.  Just generic stuff, I guess.  We had had many conversations before this about our faith, work, hobbies and family that we didn’t have to do the typical first date stuff – “So, you have parents, right?” or “You have a job, yes?”  or “How do you feel about Jesus?”  That stuff we already knew!

At some point in our relationship up to that point, Jeff learned that I hadn’t ever seen “It’s a Wonderful Life”.  I don’t know how I’ve missed it in all these years, but I had.  On the way to take me home, Jeff asked me for a second date (yes, he used the word date!) where we could watch “It’s A Wonderful Life”.  I, of course, agreed to a second date.  It wouldn’t much matter to me what we did – a second date with Jeff Massman was definitely not something I was going to turn down!  Thanksgiving was the week after our first date, so our second date waited a couple of weeks until we were both in town.  But I did get my second date with Jeff and we did watch “It’s a Wonderful Life”.  And now we’re living that wonderful life together.

My last first date.  And the best first date of my life!

(Snapshots of Rick’s Boatyard and the Pedestrian Bridge)

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It’s harder to surprise Jeff since we got married.  I don’t mean surprise him as in telling him something he doesn’t know about me (although that’s true), but I mean surprise him as in “do something special or dorky or fun”.  Since he lives here, it’s hard to “hide” things.

Monday he went to Columbus as normal for dinner with his family and then to band practice.  I stayed home as I had some ladies over.  Since I then had some time on my hands after they left, I decided to surprise him.  I did a few things. 

1) Hung a sign in the garage that he’d see as he pulled in.  I didn’t have any big paper, so I just used a white trash bag and wrote on that with a big sharpie.  Cheap, but fun!

2) The steps up into our back “porch” is a shared entrance between our place and the duplex next door.  You go up the back steps, our door is first, then our neighbors.  Months ago, I bought these paper footprints at Michaels.  Last night I used them to line the path straight to our door.  Here’s a picture of the back door to the steps and then the steps:


3) Decorated the back door and window in the back porch entrance with Christmas wrapping paper.  Makes me more excited for Christmas and it was just plain fun!


Kind of dorky, yes.  It made him smile.  And I even more eagerly anticipated him coming home to see what I had done.  Life’s just more fun this way!

 (Note, it was while taking pictures for this post that I locked myself out of the house.  Doh!)

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Jeff & I had a double date with friends of ours, Daniel & Melissa.   Originally Melissa and I hatched the plan to do a “Pre-Thanksgiving Date”.  We sent out invitations to our guys (yes, I mailed one to Jeff!).

Our plan was to make a Thanksgiving-like Dinner and then play games or something.  Then the Huskers announced their game time.  So, instead of getting together in the evening, we got to together at 2:00, still had a Thanksgiving-like meal, but watched the Husker game at Melissa’s place.  We had a roasted chicken (instead of turkey), cheesy potatoes, cranberry salad, stuffing, cherry cheesecake, pumpkin pie and Dr. Pepper!

I brought my camera, but didn’t take any pictures.  Doh!  I do have some pictures of the food I brought.

Things I’ve learned:

  • My apartment’s oven isn’t the best insulated.  Lots of heat.  Set off smoke alarm.  Must open doors and windows.
  • Wrap the chicken for traveling better.  It does have some juices.
  • I need to learn how to carve a chicken!

Here’s my offerings:

Here are the invites we mailed to the gentlemen.  I used Picasa (free!) to put it together.

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A year ago today

A year ago today, we got engaged!  Today, we’re in Kansas City with Jeff’s family.  We did the Worlds of Fun thing yesterday and are going to my first pro football game at KC today.  For today, I’ll be a cheer-er for the Chiefs, but for life, I’ll be a fan of Jeff!

Here’s our engagement story for those that don’t know it:

Background Information Needed:

Detail #1: When Jeff and I started dating, I started keeping a log of our dates.  A timeline, so to speak.  It’s a simple list: it just contains the date, the number date it was and a brief description of what we did.  That way, I could look back and remember different things that normally it’d be too easy to forget.

Detail #2: Jeff and I have a running “joke” about how long we could expect to be married.  At one point (many months ago), I think I had said that forever seemed like a really long time.  62 years of marriage seemed like a good time to get a “Get Out of Jail Free” card.  I’m already 30, so the odds of me getting to 62 years of marriage are a little bit of a long shot.  Jeff thinks 62 years is too short; 70 should be the goal – gets me to be at least 100.  He also doesn’t ever want a “Get Out of Jail Free” card, no matter how long he would be married.  Months ago, I agreed to give up my “Get Out of Jail Free” card rights.

The story:

My plan: Saturday, October 24th was going to be our 100th date, based upon my calculations.  So I sent Jeff an invitation to a “Surprise date” for that night.  His only instruction was to meet me at GAMe’s building at a specific time.  I had filled up 100 balloons (with help from some friends!) and put them in a small group room.  Certain dates were my favorite, so I wrote the date and a description on gold and silver balloons to set them apart from the rest.  After showing him the balloons, we were to walk to dinner to Vincenzo’s  in the Old Market (the same one we went to on our 3rd date).  After that, we were going to head back to the building to watch a movie (complications prevented us from using either one of our houses hence the whole using the building in the first place).  I had also secured a piece of cheesecake from Pudgy’s Pizza, which we’ve been wanting to try.

What really happened: I wrote him a letter (I kind of do that a lot) and left him instructions on the door to read the letter, then come to the small group room where I was at.  He read the letter (pretty quickly as he told me later), then came into the small group room.  I had the door closed, but he couldn’t open it because his hands were full, so I opened it for him.  In his right hand, he had 11 red roses and his left hand was behind his back.  He said: “11 red roses.  One rose each for the best 11 months of my life.”  Then he pulled out his left hand.  In his left hand was 1 yellow rose.  He held it out and I immediately noticed a ring inside the petals.  He got down on one knee and said: “A yellow rose for the next 62 years of my life.  Will you marry me?” 

My eyes got super huge and my response was something along the lines of “Oh my gosh!”, “Holy buckets!”, “Are you sure?”, “Yes!” all said over and over again.  I distinctly remember saying “Oh my gosh” an awful lot.

After that, we looked at all the balloons – talked about the ones that I had written on (as my favorites), agreed that we both had a new favorite (date #100 on 10/24/2009).  We did call my mom, sister and brother.  His family already knew.  We made it to Vincenzo’s (where the waitress thought something was up and asked us if were celebrating a special occasion AND where I ate maybe ¼ of my dinner).  We came back to the building, watched the movie (The Thin Man – black and white!), popped all the balloons, and ate ½ of the cheesecake (pretty good!).

The small group room:

Us that night:

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Childhood Memories Date!

Originally, our Childhood Memories Date was going to be last Friday, but we postponed it for a week because we’d been so busy.  And by the time the night came, I really just wanted a night at home.  So, instead of doing my original plans, I modified them a bit so that we could have Date Night at home.  Here’s what we did:

First the invitation Jeff got in the shower a couple of weeks ago, written with bathtub crayons:

 When he got home last night, he got the first of 3 “assignments”.

Assignment #1

“Wanna feel like a kid again?  Your assignment: Play a kid’s game with your wife!  Choices: Memory, Chutes & Ladders, Candy Land, Trouble”.

We own those games (just in case the nieces & nephews stop by).  Jeff picked Candy Land, so we played.  It was quite the battle.  He won the game – mostly because I kept drawing the candy pieces, bringing me back to the beginning of the game.  Dumb little candy pieces!  Let’s be honest, there isn’t a whole lot of skill involved in Candy Land…


Assignment #2

Then he got assignment #2: “One of the best things about grade school was the Book It! program.  Your assignment: Read 2 chapters in your Narnia book.  You’ll earn your Book It! Award!” 

Jeff & I have been slowly reading through the Chronicles of Narnia before bed…just every so often, we’ll read a chapter together.  So, he read me a chapter in “The Magician’s Nephew”.  (We just did 1 chapter cause we were getting hungry!)  Sure enough, Jeff earned his Book It! Award.

(reading chapter 9)  (Jeff with his Book It! Award – He’s a Super Reader!)

Of course, we all know that the reward system in the Book It! Program is getting a personal Pan pizza from Pizza Hut.  Well, Jeff & I prefer Godfather’s to Pizza Hut, so on my way home from work that night, I picked us up each a personal mini pizza.  Loaded with our favorite toppings: hamburger, pepperoni, mushroom, green pepper and onion for Jeff and just hamburger and mushroom for me.  That didn’t seem as much food as when we were kids, so I added breadsticks to the order.  The breadsticks were bigger than the pizzas!

(Note: I’ve got a thing or two to learn about picture taking — I should’ve hidden the vitamins and the salt/pepper mills!)

While we were eating, I wanted to play Trouble!, so while not technically an assignment, we played.  I won!  Again, not a whole lot of skill involved in Trouble. 

Assignment #3 

Jeff’s next assignment: “You didn’t see this as a kid.  But you would’ve wanted to.  Your assignment: Put on your PJs, grab a bowl of popcord and enjoy Chronicles of Narnia!”   

It kind of turned out to be a Narnia date, but that was by accident.  We’d been wanting to see the first Narnia movie, so I borrowed it from a friend.  We changed into our PJs and grabbed the popcorn I had made earlier and watched the movie.  We’re ready for the third one to come out!

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He Said Yes!

This greeted Jeff this morning as he went and took a shower.  You can’t read the text super well, but it says: “You’re invited on a Childhood Date on Friday, September 17th.  Be there!”  Right next to it was a pinwheel.  He’d better be there….I got plans!

I wrote on the shower wall using Crayola’s bathtub crayons.  I found them at Michael’s.  I had been looking for them for a really long time, but no one really seemed to carry them.  What I really wanted was their marker version.  If anyone sees any, pick me up a pack, would ya?

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