It’s officially been 1 month since my last day of work. Since then, we also welcomed Baby Ben into our family, so the time has been full. Thought it’d be good (for me) to document some of my thoughts on how the ‘Not Working’ thing is going.
Answer: I LOVE IT! Since I’ve been employed since I was 15, the closest thing I can compare ‘not working’ to is my maternity leaves where I took 6 weeks off work. Which is pretty fitting because if I was still employed, I’d be on maternity leave right now.
But this is pretty different than my maternity leaves. For a couple of reasons:
- I knew that my maternity leaves were temporary. The time was limited and I knew that I was going back soon.
- I still continued to work during my maternity leaves. Not full-time, of course, but I dialed in to keep my email Inbox as clean as possible and to respond to anything critical. I had people doing parts of my job during each leave and I knew that I was putting a burden on them.
This time? I can’t work even if I wanted to. No access to any company resources. Why? Because I’m not employed there! I might wonder what people are doing while I’m gone, but it doesn’t cross my mind often. I don’t know what meetings I’m missing. I don’t know what decisions they have to make. I don’t know what software enhancements they’re designing. I just don’t know. I don’t have to worry about the work that’s waiting for me when I get back. That makes it infinitely easier to not think about my past life.
Right after Ben’s birth, I had this thought: “Man, having Baby #4 sure is easier than Baby #1!” I chalked it up to confidence brought about by experience. But I don’t think that’s the cause of my calm nearly as much not having to think about work and what impact my absence is having on my co-workers.
I wrote about this almost 5 years ago, but so far, my experience is proving it out: Being a Stay-At-Home Mom seems to be emotionally great! My attention isn’t divided and that is very freeing right now.