I ran across a quote a while ago, but I don’t remember the source. It is “People don’t know how wonderful they are. Someone needs to tell them.” Maybe, for your friend, that someone is you. After all, relationships need encouragement to keep growing. Marriages don’t thrive when we ignore our spouses. Children don’t feel closer to us when we don’t spend time with them. Friendships are the same thing. Even with limited time that we moms can have, we can encourage our friendships. All it takes is just a little time and forethought.
Here are some of my ideas that don’t take too much time to pull off.
- Send an email or a text message. It just needs to be a few sentences, but it will brighten her day. Give her one to two things that you really appreciate. Some things you’ve noticed about her specifically. Extra credit if you hand write it on a note card, but that’s not necessary.
- Bring her a treat. Driving through Starbucks? Pick her up a latte. Stopping by Dairy Queen? Order an extra milk shake just for her! Find out where she is and drop the treat off. You don’t even need to enjoy it with her; just bless her!
- Decorate her yard. Get some plastic Easter eggs, fill them with candy and decorate her door step. Buy 100 American flags and make a big sign in her yard. Sneak into her yard at night and have some fun. Her kids will probably get a kick out of it too!
- Drop off dinner. Making a casserole for dinner? Make two, but bring one to her. Just give her advance notice that you’re providing the meal or make it something that she can serve the next day. Meals don’t have to be just for new moms or when there is a death in the family.
- Leave a voice mail. Does she have a work phone number? Call it late at night when she won’t be in the office. Leave a short message telling her that you value her friendship. That’ll be a nice surprise when she gets into the office!
- Listen carefully. Many times, friends drop hints about the things that they need. Has she been looking for a good pork tenderloin recipe? If you find one, pass it on. If she mentions that her brother is looking for a job and you come across a possibility, send it her way. If you see a rug that would look great in her living room, tell her about it.
- Take something off her plate. Does she have errands to run? Can you pick up her dry cleaning or the 5 gallons of paint she’s been meaning to get for the basement? You can’t help her file her status reports for work, but you can bring her a snack while she’s working late.
- Remember her birthday. Let’s be honest. Sometimes moms can get overlooked on their birthdays. So, before Facebook tells you it’s her birthday, write it in your day planner and plan ahead. Order her one of those big chocolate chip cookies. Make her a birthday cake. It can even be from a box. Help her kids make her a card. Just make her feel special in some small way!
How do you encourage friendship?