More thoughts on marriage from someone who has been married for a whopping 4 years…
Thought #5: People make assumptions
I make assumptions all the time. You do too. I assume that my car will start in the morning. I assume that when I set the alarm, it will go off. I assume that restaurants serve properly cooked food that won’t make me sick. Most of the time, these assumptions serve me well and aren’t any big deal.
But sometimes, I make bad assumptions. Sometimes, I assume that when Jeff cleans up the toy room, he’s making a silent commentary on my housekeeping skills. Or that when he doesn’t want to make changes to our life insurance that he doesn’t really care what happens if he were to pass away. Sometimes, he assumes that when I use sarcasm and say something that hurts his feelings, that I’m intentionally being mean. (I’m violating the “We only edify” rule!)
In reality, he just wants to help me out. In reality, he is still thinking about the insurance policy changes. In reality, I just wasn’t being careful with my words and thought I was being funny.
I try to assume good things. And to ask questions about what he really meant.