More thoughts on marriage from someone who has been married for a whopping 4 years…
Thought #2: People can change
People change over their lives. They have experiences that shape them. They read books that change their opinions on things. They talk to people who introduce new ideas to them. So people change. Sometimes, for the better. Sometimes, for the worse.
The complicating factor that impacts marriage is that often one person will move towards a different direction and the other doesn’t. It might be a big deal, but it doesn’t have to be a major thing to create conflict. He starts veering right and she wants to stay on the left and there’s a struggle there.
In our marriage, this is mostly my doing. I read something and start changing my mind on different things and Jeff doesn’t necessarily agree. With the rate at which I read, there’s no way he can keep up with me and still keep his sanity. So, the struggle in our marriage can be on my shoulders to be slow to change my mind, communicate with him well and give him space and time to think about the things that I’m now thinking of.