I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t like my church. I’ve felt this for a couple of years now, so I don’t think the feeling is going away any time soon.
But the problem is that I don’t know WHY I don’t like this church.
- It has wonderful ministries – inner city ministries, hospitals for women and children in Africa, helping sex trafficking victims, teaching pastors in China and Mali. Divorce care ministries, single moms, addiction recovery, counselors on staff, food pantries. I think the ministry arm of my church does seriously wonderful things.
- It has very nice people. I don’t think I’ve met a mean person yet. We’re in a small group and it’s full of rockstar people!
- It has good theology. There hasn’t been much preached from the pulpit that I disagree with. And nothing that I strongly disagree with.
- It has a great library of all kinds of books.
It has upbeat worship. But it isn’t really my style. I feel like I’m at a concert instead of at a worship service. Some people totally love that and get excited by it. Not me, I guess. It didn’t bother me at first, but it does now.
It has good teaching, but at the same time, I don’t really feel like I know the Bible any better because of my 4 years attending there.
I know a church isn’t supposed to be my only way of worshiping and learning about God – and it isn’t. But it’s also a major part. I mean, if I go there every single week and feel that I’d rather be in the nursery instead of in service, that’s a problem.
But is that enough reason to leave a church? My husband likes it. And since I can’t articulate very well why I don’t like it, it makes it hard to find another church – what would we look for?