So, let’s say that there is a Mommy War. Where does it come from?
I think it comes from pride. We humans want to be good at things. I remember a quote once: “All people everywhere have one thing in common: we all think we’re above-average drivers.” Tee Hee!
And it’s kind of true. No one wants to think that they’re really bad at something. At least, not bad at things that matter. The more something matters, the more I want to be good at it. Example: I’m not very good at cleaning the woodwork around our house. I just never think of it and when I do, I don’t usually care. Since I don’t care about it, I don’t care about not being good at it.
But mothering? That I do care about. Very much so. I want to be a good mother. And I want others to think I’m a good mother. Just about everyone does – no matter their income, faith background, nationality, or age.
And sometimes, our pride makes us look at others to compare ourselves to them. In hopes that we measure up. And it’s easier for us to think that we measure up if we bring them down. “Well, at least I don’t formula feed.” or “At least I had my kids potty trained before the age of 1.” or “I’m a good mom because my kids sit quietly in church.” There’s thousands of ways that we can compare ourselves to one another.
Pride: It isn’t right, but I get it.
(Note: none of the above things are true – I do formula feed. My kids aren’t potty trained. And neither of them sits well in church unless you count sleeping. We send the oldest to Sunday School instead of Big People Church.)