Maybe The Mommy Wars isn’t really a Mommy War. Maybe it’s just immaturity. And it shows up in issues surrounding motherhood.
Maybe there isn’t really a Mommy War as much as other people can be immature. If someone isn’t trying to be a jerk, but says something in a way that causes a sting, maybe they’re just immature. Just maybe. Kind of like when you’re a kid and you point to someone in the grocery store saying “That lady has a big nose!” They aren’t jerks. They’re just immature. They (the kid and the person making you feel bad) just need to learn that there’s a time and place. Now and here is not that time nor place. They got some growing up to do.
Maybe there isn’t really a Mommy War as much as I am immature. If someone’s excitement for their way of life makes me feel bad, then that’s MY problem and reflects my insecurity, not their rudeness.
Example: I have friends that have a hard time with the fact that I have 2 kids in 18 months while they’re struggling with infertility. Not a hard time as in “Jayme, I think you’re really unwise”, but a hard time as in “I wish that was me too.” I don’t intentionally taunt them or anything, but there are still pangs on their side. Neither one of us in the wrong – I can be excited for my life and that might naturally cause them angst.
I got other thoughts on why the Mommy War might not really be a war…