More thoughts on the supposed Mommy War…
So…I have friends that homeschool and can’t imagine it any other way. I have friends that are super passionate about natural births (even home births). I have friends that stay-at-home and would be distraught at the idea of working outside the home. I have friends that are members of Le Leche.
But here’s the deal…they can be super excited about all of this and I can be okay with not doing anything that they do. Their excitement about their choices and way of life is okay and doesn’t invalidate my choices.
Maybe there isn’t really a Mommy War as much as there are jerks out there. If someone says something intending to make me feel bad, well, then they aren’t a friend, are they? They’re jerks. Regardless of what the topic is – mothering or finances or grocery shopping or taxes or driving cars.
What is it about mothering that we’d say a mean remark is part of a War? If they made some judgmental comment about my hair or the color of my car, we wouldn’t say it’s part of the Beauty War. If they made a comment about the size of my house or tax return, we wouldn’t say it’s part of the Budgeting War. But if it’s about parenting, then they’re participating in the Mommy War. Why is it a war?
I got other thoughts on why the Mommy War might not really be a war…