Just some random thoughts on kids that I’ve had lately.
Looking to the Future
I love Stephen (our second), but the experience is different than it was with our first. With Stephen, I look at him and think “What are you going to be like as a 6-month old?” and “What little habits and quirks will you have as a toddler?” and “How will you learn to walk – all at once or gradually over the course of several weeks?” and “What will be your favorite book that we’ll read over and over?” and “Will you like to play with cars?” Different things like that.
The “Key” to Two Kids Under Two
I believe the key to having Two kids under Two is being able to trust (reasonably) your toddler. For some, that means toddler proofing your house. For others, that means houseproofing your toddler. (I personally think a combination of the two is best, but not the point here.) But when Stephen was born, we had just moved into the new house and it was still not put together. Boxes around. Painting being done. He hadn’t learn the boundaries of this house yet. The first couple of weeks with 2 kids, I’d often shut me and the boys in the nursery while I fed Stephen because our house wasn’t toddler proof yet nor was Phinehas houseproof. Within a couple of weeks, it got a lot better and I didn’t shut us in the nursery anymore during feedings.
Oh, and learn to be okay with crying. Not thrilled by it. But don’t let it rattle you. They’re just sharing their feelings on the situation.
Seeing Them Interact
We haven’t seen much hostility or dislike between the boys. For the most part, Phinehas is indifferent towards Stephen. But occasionally he wants to hold the baby or give him kisses. And while that’s sweet, what I really think about is how well they will play together in a year or so. I hope they do well together. Not each pair of siblings do. Different personalities and all that. But I’m hoping that they become good friends.
They Look Like Each Other?
People keep telling me that the 2 boys look like each other. And I’m like “Yup, they do. Cause they both look like babies! And all babies look alike.” I’m really not good at the whole “He has your eyes, but he has his smile” game.
God’s Mercies Are Everywhere
I’m not naturally a person who easily recognizes God’s mercy and grace in the little things of life. But I can definitely see it in how well Stephen is sleeping. Since his 6-week birthday, he’s sleeping through the night. No joke! Thought it might have been a fluke, but it’s been 4 nights in a row now, so I’m thinking it’s for real. He takes one last bottle around 8:00 or so (give or take) and then sleeps until around 6:00 am or so. I’m calling that “sleeping through the night”.
I didn’t do anything different with Stephen than I did with Phinehas, so I’m not sure why the drastic difference in sleeping patterns, but I’ll take it! Just struck me as a way that God is showing me mercy and grace!
Being A Working Mom
I had a whole series of posts on my thoughts on being a working mom – I was up to 5 posts and counting! But, I realized that I’m not settled on this issue and wasn’t ready to share my thoughts. I will say this: Almost daily, I’m shocked that I’m a working mom. And yet, I’m okay with it. Not proud of it. Not ashamed of it either. It’s just what I do. It’s such a weird situation for me.
Babies Are Adorable
Babies are just adorable. Toddlers are fun. I think I’ll take 10, please!