So, not too many people know that we’re pregnant. Family, yes. Close friends, yes. But it doesn’t come up much. It isn’t on facebook. My co-workers don’t know. Only one of Jeff’s co-workers know. And I’m not showing, so it doesn’t come up much.
But there was a gal that asked outright when we were planning for #2. So I told her that #2 will be here in October. Then came the question that I’ve never been asked before “Was that planned?”
My first reaction: You betcha! It actually took longer to get pregnant again than we thought it would.
My second reaction: Wow, I wonder if I’ll get this question often?
Yeah, we’ll have 2 kids under the age of 2. They’ll be 18 months apart. I think that’s awesome! So, yeah, it was planned.
Why was it planned this way?
- I could give a theological answer that would say “Cause God loves babies and people and so do I.”
- I could give a practical answer that would say “Might as well get the hard work of the baby phase over and done with in one shot!”
- I could give a parenting answer that would say “I’d like my kids to be close in age, in hopes that they’ll be good friends.”
- I could give a reality-based answer that would say “I’m not getting any younger, so I need to have kids while I still can.”
The truth is all of these. But the opposite of these statements can also be true:
- God loves babies, but I don’t think He commands Christians to have as many as possible.
- Having babies is hard work, at times, but tons of fun. And let’s be honest: I don’t really think kids get ‘easier’ – just have different needs.
- Just because kids are close in age, it doesn’t make them good friends. In fact, it could enable more competitive spirits.
- I still have at least a few child-bearing years left and God is still the one that opens and closes the womb (though, I don’t think it’s a fair expectation to ask Him to open it at age 90.)
The real answer: It just seems wise. And it’s what we wanted to do. And God answers prayer.