There are 2 mom blogs that I read often (among others). I like the advice that each gives, even though they are pretty different women with different philosophies. But I like them.
Lady A tends to the ‘scheduling’ philosophy of feeding babies. Meaning: Feed babies on a regular basis, even if there aren’t signs of hunger yet. Keep their little tummies full to help them with growth and sleeping.
Lady B tends to the ‘on demand’ philosophy of feeding babies. Meaning: Feed babies when it seems like they’re hungry. They want a snack? Okay! They want a big meal? Okay!
If asked “Should you wake a baby from a nap to feed her?”, they’d answer differently.
Lady A would say “You do wake a baby up to feed. Otherwise, she’ll think you don’t care enough about her to wake her up.”
Lady B would say “You don’t wake a baby up to feed. Otherwise, she’ll be mad and hurt. Baby knows what she needs the best.”
Two women. Completely different philosophies. Who is right? Both. Neither. Who knows? I just chuckle.
The longer that I’m a mom and the parenting blogs and books that I read, the more convinced I am that no one really knows what babies think. We guess. We have a good idea. We think we know. But I don’t think we really know.
Moms just do the best they can with the baby they have with the parenting mindset that they have.