Proverbs 31:27-31 is the end of the chapter, but I will have some follow up thoughts tomorrow.
She looks well to the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
I don’t have much more to say on this one that hasn’t already said. She is not idle. She’s looked at her family from every direction, sees what the needs are and addresses them.
Her children rise up and bless her;
Her husband also, and he praises her, saying:
“Many daughters have done nobly,
But you excel them all.”
Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
Give her the product of her hands,
And let her works praise her in the gates.
There are probably a numerous different reasons that men decide to date a particular lady or to marry her. Verse 30 gives a couple of bad reasons to marry. Charm — some women are very charming, but falsely so. They flatter, they encourage, but then they go psycho. Or they do things that don’t match the charming exterior they’ve built. That’s what dating is for – to see if that charming exterior is just a false front or the result of a “woman who fears the Lord”.
Another reason some men date a particular gal is because of her beauty. Beauty is great – God has created very beautiful things. But if that’s the basis for a relationship or the only attractive quality about a woman, a man will be sorry pretty quickly. I’d love to be beautiful like some of the models out there, but not if the insecurity and worldliness come with it.
Suzy gets what she has coming to her — praise!!! She’s been deemed the best of the best! She’s praised by her children. She’s praised by her husband. How cool is that?!? It’s one thing to get accolades from people who “kind of, sort of” know you, but so much sweeter to get praises from those that see you work every day. From the people who know the real you. Those that know first hand the impact you’ve had on them. Admiration from others is nice, but a great compliment from a spouse and children are wonderful.
I’m sure she hasn’t done all this perfectly. I’m sure there’s a day where she didn’t get the laundry done like she wanted. I’m sure there’s been a time where they ordered pizza instead of a homemade Chicken Pot Pie. I’m willing to bet there’s been days where she’s cried in frustration. She may have made a mistake or two in her investing or tried to learn a new skill that turned out to not quite be her cup of tea. That’s life. That’s what happens when you take risks. But the people who have known her for years praise her! They see the course of her life and admire her for it.
Praise doesn’t always come quickly. In this case, it’s the woman’s children who are praising her. I bet that took a few years for that to happen. No one ever had a 2-year-old tell them “Thanks for raising me so well, mom!” No, it sometimes takes time for the full impact of your deeds to be known. You have to be patient with that. Look at the long-term effects of what you’re doing. You may not be praised now, but hopefully, you’re the best of the best and you will get your praises!