Jeff likes to explain submission by using this example. I like it.
Submission is like a Captain and a Sergeant in the army. The Captain sets the priorities, gathers information, makes decisions. As a good Captain, he gets the Sergeant’s input on things and on decisions that need to be made. Once a decision has been made, the Sergeant executes on the decision. The Major has freedom to use the troops and other resources he has available to him, within the area of influence he has. He doesn’t get to tell the Captain what to do. He doesn’t get to direct troops that aren’t under his command. He can certainly ask the Captain for more help or his opinion, but by and large, he has freedom to execute what direction the Captain set.
It isn’t always this way. Sometimes the Captain will make a decision and execute it himself. That’s okay too. The Captain doesn’t always have to have the Sergeant do it. Maybe it’s an area that the Captain likes or maybe it’s something that the Sergeant doesn’t have time for. My main points are:
1) The Captain and Sergeant are better together when both give input and both decide the direction that should be taken, but there are times when the Captain just has to make a decision.
2) A good Sergeant knows what he/she is responsible for and executes in a way that he/she thinks the Captain will approve of.
3) The Sergeant seeks to support what the Captain is doing, not to undo the goals the Captain has set.
4) Captains like Sergeant who bake cookies. And monkey bread.