3 month anniversary this Sunday!
Thought I’d share some random thoughts about marriage – what this gal has learned in only 3 months.
- It’s a transition. A big one. A fantastic one, but a big one. Expect bumbs.
- It’s okay to feel a little sad that your “old life” is gone, even while you’re happy over your new life. Acknowledge that. It’s okay.
- Making a home can be hard work. If you’ve never lived on your own before, it will even be a bigger adjustment.
- It’s the small stuff that can pay off big. Cleaning the messy pan right after you cook vs. when it’s sat out for 3 hours.
- Set expectations realistically. This is the beginning of your married life, not the pinnacle. You shouldn’t expect to be as good at being married as you will in 10 years. Show yourself some grace.
- Be really clear. Men don’t take hints. Women don’t take hints. Say what you want. And if you think you know what your partner wants, ask just to make sure. Cause you might be wrong.
- Determine your role. Some couples decide that the wife does the cleaning. Some decide that the husband cleans the bathroom and kitchen. Whatever you decide, decide. Other wise no one will clean the bathroom and both will feel that the other isn’t upholding their end of the bargain.
- Get organized. You have 2 people’s stuff in one place. Everything should have a place. Your important papers should be cataloged. Your pantry and fridge should have a plan. Your storage totes should be labeled. Totally help prevents confusion.
- Learn how to sleep well together. I was surprised at the number of conversations that dealt with number of blankets, room dark enough, fan or no fan? Every night for a few weeks we tried something different.
- Kiss alot. Go ahead. God wants you to.
- It can take a long time to get your name changed everywhere. Far longer than it should. I have no idea why that is. It’s a simple process, but some institutions make it difficult (First National Bank!)
- Take a honeymoon. Even if it’s a long weekend. Get away.
- Take some days off work. I’m really glad that I took 2 extra days off work after the honeymoon. Allowed me to put my house back in order and gave me time to breathe. Great decision.
- Nothing beats saying “Good Night” to the man you love. Fantastic!!!