“I can live for two months on a good compliment.” – Mark Twain
“People don’t know how wonderful they are. Someone needs to tell them.” – From a magazine article
I’ve often regretted not encouraging someone when I could have. Occasionally I get little nudges in my head to thank someone or tell them that they did a good job. People just don’t get told those kinds of things often enough, do they?
I’ve had a few instances of my life where someone stopped doing something. When asked why, they replied: “I don’t think I made any impact there” or “I’m not good at that”. I hear that and I think “oh man, why didn’t I tell them how good they were?”
It’s just crazy how the belief that we’re not significant can affect us. When’s the last time you stopped, looked at someone and said “Thank You”? Maybe thank someone you don’t normally thank. Your boss. A co-worker. A receptionist. A church leader. A work out partner. A neighbor. A roommate. A family member. Thank them for doing things that you normally take for granted. Or thank them for things that they’re supposed to do. Imagine if they didn’t do what they were supposed to do, how would that impact you? What if the receptionist stopped answering the phone? What if your wife stopped making dinner? What if your husband stopped raking leaves? What if your kids stopped obeying? What if the mailman stopped delivering your mail? Just say thank you.
When’s the last time you told someone they did a good job? Is there someone who always does good? Tell them that. Chances are that they aren’t being told. Does your husband do a good job at providing? Does your sister do a great job raising her kids? Does your neighbor do a great job keeping their yard picked up? You might feel silly, but that’s only because you’re out of practice. Compliment often and you won’t feel funny. Be known for being the person that makes others feel great about themselves. If you need a selfish reason to do this, people will like you better because they’ll feel good about themselves because of you.