Have you heard those new ads on the radio? I heard the ad for the first time today. A plastic surgeon in Omaha is promoting Mommy Makeovers. It’s a series of cosmetic procedures performed in one surgery to “undo” the “damage” that pregnancy and childbirth have done to your body. While they can’t undo everything, they can get you a lot closer. Their words, not mine.
HOLY BUCKETS PEOPLE! Like I need even more reasons to not have children! Now, it’s a societal fact that children ruin your figure. I know pregnancy and childbirth change your body (my mom tells me that she got her hips from me!), but do we have to make it so blatant? So accepted? So known?
I’m not opposed to plastic surgery – in the right time and right context and for the right reasons. In the interest of full disclosure, I’ve had some of the same procedures they’re putting in the Mommy Makeovers. It happens when you’ve lost 140+ pounds. But really? Tie plastic surgery costs into the costs of having kids? Really? Radio ads that pretty much tell us that our worth is found in our physical appearance and that children diminish that?!
- As a society, we already encourage little girls to grow up faster. To emulate the not-so-wholesome pop stars we put in their vision.
- We already teach teens that to drink like guys is fine. We expect them to have sex before marriage, to abort their baby if they “get caught”.
- Then we turn around and encourage kids to be kids for as long as they can – even when they’re 25 and still unsure what they want to do “when they grow up”. “You’re only young once!”
- We celebrate teen moms in shows like ’16 and Pregnant’.
- We tell moms that they can do better than ‘just being a mom’.
- We tell dads they they really aren’t that important after all – assuming they’re bringing in a paycheck. As if a dad’s worth was just financial. PUH-LEASE!
- We tell people that it takes $225K (without college) to raise a kid AND we ask them if it’s worth it.
As if all of those things weren’t enough, we now have radio ads telling us what when we women are done having children wreck our bodies, we can get it fixed. Well, maybe not fixed completely – but at least bettered. Holy buckets! Like I needed even more of a complex! Like I needed one reason to be scared of parenthood.
When did we stop valuing marriage as a society?
When did we stop valuing children? When did we start seeing them as these ‘things’ that cost so much money, suck up our free time, get between you and your spouse and now damage us physically?
Where are the ads that say children are worth it? Where do we ever hear that children do cost money, do take up our time, do change our bodies and our priorities, but are God’s precious gifts?
When and where do we ever hear that message?