Yay! You asked her out. She said yes. Now you have a date. A first date! A first date can be tricky – if you’ve been crushing on her for a while, it’d be easy to see this as a REALLY BIG deal. Something you’re so freaked out about. If you just randomly asked some chick out and she said yes, well, then you’re probably not feeling as much pressure are you.
As I talked about before, have a plan. But not an overly rigid one that you can’t deviate from. Random things happen in life. You might have picked to go to Long John Silvers for dinner then found out that she breaks out in hives around anything fish-like. Your date ideas and your date are not compatible. So, you can have 2-3 restraurant in mind. Then before hand or when you pick her up, give her the options and see what she prefers. It’s as simple as saying: “I was thinking of going to Old Chicago or Olive Garden. Do you have a preference?” Then go with whatever her preference is. If you have a general plan, then you’re likely to be able to handle things that are thrown at you.
Pick her up. Unless this is a situation where that isn’t an option (like you met online and are finally meeting in person – then meet her at the place). Make sure your car is clean. Doesn’t have to sparkle like a vampire, but it should be clean. She shouldn’t have to push aside 5 McDonald’s take out sacks, 2 empty two liter bottles of pop and a football to sit down. You don’t want to show her to your car, then regret the way your car looks.
Don’t take her flowers. Some women may disagree with me, but I think for a first date, flowers are a no. It’s just a date. Don’t build it up into some uber romantic moment. Not for a first date. I personally think that flowers on a first date (unless it’s a corsage because it’s prom) is trying too hard and comes off as a little desperate. It doesn’t say “Please like me.” It SCREAMS: “This is a really big deal. Please love me forever and ever and ever.” If you get to the 3rd date stage, then you can think of bringing flowers. You’ll regret looking desperate.
Meet her family. If she lives with them, that is. Go inside and meet them. Should her father be there conveniently cleaning his gun, laugh and just endure it.
Get her at the door. Don’t pull up in her driveway and honk. Well, don’t do that if you want to actually go on the date. Or if you think you might want a second date. Rude. Being rude will come back to haunt you and you’ll regret that too.
Open her door. And all other doors you come across. She might not be expecting you to do this, so be prepared for that. To open her door, walk beside her until you’re about 5 steps away from the car door. She’ll kind of sense that you’re walking to the passenger side of the car, so she’ll probably know what’s up, but just in case. When you’re about 5 steps away, you start walking faster to beat her to the door. Then open the door so that she can get in. You’ll never regret acting like a gentleman.
Open other doors. When you get to the restaurant, open the doors there too. Again, walk next to her until you’re close to the door. Speed up just a bit to have time to open the door, so that it’s obvious to her. If there are 2 sets of doors (like a door, then a waiting area, then another set of doors), she may or may not wait for you to open the 2nd set of door. Don’t assume anything based upon her actions. If she opens it for you, that’s nice. If she waits for you to come open it for her, that’s nice too. Don’t assume that if she opens the door for you, that she’s some ultra feminist who hates men. She doesn’t really know what to do any more than you do. About the only time you can assume something is if she goes to the 2nd set of doors, goes through them and then closes them rudely in your face. That’s a tell. She probably isn’t so into you. Or she’s rude. In which case, you’ll regret choosing a rude girl. But you won’t regret learning early on that she’s rude.
That’s part 1….part 2 to come…