Here are my tips & hints for asking a woman out. On a date.
- Use the words “on a date”. Or something similar to make it clear that you’re not asking her to the Homer Simpson’s movie because you think she likes Homer Simpson. Make it clear that you’re asking her out on a date. It may change her answer. She may say no to Homer Simpson, but yes because it’s a date with you. Being really clear will make you her mini-hero.
- Ask her face to face, if at all possible. This can be hard if you never get a chance to talk to her one on one. A distant second is a phone call. Never do it on facebook (even in a message or on chat). Never do it over email. Never do it over text messaging. Asking for a first date should always be done in person. Makes for a better story and makes it so much more special to her.
- If she doesn’t seem to give you a clear yes or no, ask for one. If you asked her to the movies on Friday and she says she is busy that Friday, ask her if a different day would work. Or you could ask her straight out if it’s you she’s saying no to. Or if she’s saying to that particular Friday. Or if she’s saying no to a movie. If you were clear in the ask, she should be clear in the response. But if she isn’t, ask for clarification. You don’t want to go home and wonder if you should try again.
- Have a plan for the date – a general one. Not a “At 7:05, we will walk to the restaurant and at 7:10, we will start eating.” But have an idea of what time you’d pick her up, the place you’ll go and any after-date activities.
- For a first date, keep it shorter rather than longer. This, of course, depends on how long you’ve known her before you ask her out. But in general, don’t plan a day trip for the 2 of you to Worlds of Fun. That’s an intimidating first date. Think dinner or dinner and coffee or putt putt golf.
Those are my tips.