Mars Hill is a church whose blog I check every day (thank you RSS Feed for making it easy!) For the last month, they’ve been focusing on Biblical Manhood and other issues relating to men.
One they posted the other day one called: “I found my pants, now what?” Basically, it’s a How To Guide for how to be a grown up. He’s got a quick checklist of things to do. I liked it. Seems simple. Seems like skills people should leave high school knowing how to do. But not everyone knows how to do them. (Makes me grateful for a mom who taught me to do these things!)
The other one that they had that I really liked was “The world is filled with boys who can shave.” Highlighted quotes:
“Historically, a guy would go through two life phases: boy, then man. The transition from boy to man was comprised of five sociological variables that happened almost simultaneously or in very close succession: Leave your parents’ home (Gen. 2:24); finish your education or vocational training; start a career-track job, not a dead-end-Joe one; meet a woman, love her, honor her, court her, and marry her; have children with her.
But here’s what’s happened. Rather than moving from boy to man by this succession of sociological transitions, we’ve created something called adolescence. It’s a third life stage in the middle between boy and man. We don’t know what to call them so we just call them “guys.” These are boys who can shave.”
“I don’t care if you buy a truck, and you can play some video games and rock out on your guitar. I don’t really care. But the issue is when those are prevalent, predominant, and preeminent in your life. Some of you guys would argue with me on this and say, “It’s not a sin.” No, but sometimes it’s just stupid. It’s just dumb. You got fired because you were up trying to get to the next level and become a guild leader. That’s dumb. That’s totally dumb. You work one part-time job so you could play more guitar. That’s dumb. That’s really, really dumb. You spend all your money on a new car or truck, or toys, or gear, or gambling, or fantasy football. Dumb. Some of you say, “Well, it’s not a sin.” Neither is eating your lawnmower. It’s just dumb. Just doesn’t do anything. There are a lot of things that guys that are Christians do that aren’t evil, they’re just dumb.”
I can relate to that and I’m not even a man. How many of my hours are spent doing things that aren’t sin, but are just plain dumb? Things that aren’t productive. Things that don’t bring meaning. Things that don’t glorify God. Things that result in nothing. I’m not talking about taking a spare hour here and there to read a book or watch a TV show – that’s part of life. But…when I look back on my week and I figure out what good I’ve done…I’m coming up with far too little these days.
And that? That, I regret.