Dear Mom of One,
Have another child. You should. Cause kids are awesome!
While I can’t really tell you what to do with your womb, I do want to encourage you that it gets easier. This second kid thing is sooo completely different from the first kid thing.
With the first kid, every single thing was new. Brand spankin’ new. Never faced before.
The amount of responsibility that came on you all of a sudden was overwhelming. If your child needed something, it was up to you (and your spouse) to provide it. For now and for many, many years to come.
The amount of things you had to acquire in some way was all on you. The pressure (even if it was just pressure you put on yourself) to get the right items seemed so high. The stroller that fits your lifestyle best. The crib that goes best in your rooms. Would the breast bump work for you? What kinds of bottles and diapers are best for your baby? Debating on how many onesies and sleepers will you need? How do you install a carseat again!? Are you a baby swing family? How about bouncy seats?
Everything your child went through was new to you. You had never had sole responsibility for a newborn - including “little” things like caring for umbilical cord stumps, clipping fingernails, clearing away boogers, giving baths. Caring for a baby was new too – how to comfort him to sleep, knowing when baby is tired or just tired of being on his tummy, helping baby learn how to sit, how to roll over, how to crawl and eventually how to walk. Figuring out if he really is sick or just teething. Figuring out if you like have a routine or if you’re just a “whatever whenever” kind of parent. Trying to decide the best way (and when) to start baby on solids and cow’s milk. Trying to decide when to move him from a crib to a “bigger boy” bed.
These are all decisions that I’ve faced and my oldest will be 2 tomorrow. (I can’t imagine all the things I’ll face in the next 20 years.) But I’m hear to tell you: the second time is much easier. Sure, every child is different and you’ll likely face different scenarios. But guess what? You don’t have to start from scratch! You’ve already made lots of decisions the first time around. You’ll probably do the same thing next time! You don’t have to, of course. Because you’ve learned some things. And your family is different now.
But, dear mom of 1, please don’t think that having your second child will be just as hard and overwhelming as the first. At least, it hasn’t been for me. You’ve already set a great foundation. So have another one!
Mother of Two